New blog routine

Up until now, all of these have been written first thing in the morning.  But it’s the busy season at the moment, with various commitments and a lot going on, and frankly sleep is slightly more beneficial than blogging.

But sleep is making me blog this evening instead.  Or rather lack of it.  I am a great sleeper, it’s definitely my top skill in life.  It’s also the canary in the mine of health and wellbeing.  If I stop sleeping, there is something wrong. And I stopped sleeping a couple of nights ago, not in a huge way, I just keep waking up.  I can drop off again, because I am determinedly not engaging in a thought process, but that ability will wear off as I get more tired, I know.  So instead of having the day start with getting thoughts in order, tonight I am going to end the day with this habit.

Now, to work out what is keeping me awake.  I think it is an accumulation of things and I don’t really want to give credence to my fears. I am feeling overwhelmed, by a quantity of issues, rather than one thing in particular. I suspect what I am not doing very well is writing down everything I need to get sorted and then working out where to start.   In a peculiar way, my fear is writing everything down, because then I may just realise that I can’t do anything.

The problem with feeling overwhelmed is that it becomes harder to find a way to get the job done.  I am starting the inevitable downward spiral into feeling that I can’t do anything, I am hopeless at everything, the best thing to do is run away.  This is my very typical dramatic catastrophising of everything into something way bigger than it should be.  Tonight’s catastrophe is that someone has criticised something I put in place and I feel bad about having to deal with a difficult situation and potentially hurting someone’s feelings.  I seem to think that running away will help.  I know it won’t, but right now, that flight instinct is huge.

To add some perspective, I have handled the situation well.  Two things went wrong tonight on my watch, one was solvable this evening and so it was resolved and hopefully all will be fine.  The other issue felt much bigger.  So, I did what I will hopefully come to accept was the right thing, I listened to the concerns and I promised to deal with them.  And I will deal with it at another time, when I am not feeling overwhelmed, not today.

And meanwhile, I need to remember everything good that happened this evening, because lots did. Perfection is not mine on this occasion, but I need to not forget the good stuff, there was much much more of that than the bad stuff.

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Getting diverted

I was really enjoying writing something every day and then the fun went out of it.  I realised yesterday that this often happens to hobbies and pastimes.  I started this habit because it was a fun way to channel thoughts and write something I want to write before a day of writing emails and reports.  As I got more into it I overstretched, as I often do.  In this case setting up thinkingquietly.org.uk as a home for the blog. It is not a bad thing to have done, but it is something different to writing a short blog nearly every day.

Setting up a simple site is not simple for me, and I have done very little of it if I am honest, because it requires a lot of time to learn how to do it and it’s not really my passion; so it’s not something I want to make time for.   It is the husband’s passion, so he is really keen on finding new widgets or plug ins for the site, it’s always good to watch someone be excited about a project, but I need to catch up on this one.

Passion is the key though isn’t it?  Suddenly, I realised I had not written for over a week, but had had various conversations about the backend of the site instead.  In fact, I wasn’t writing because I don’t fancy setting up the site.  In a busy time in life, I don’t get any energy from something that technical, I don’t really have a passion to learn about it, I feel I ought to, but that is not the same thing.

It’s a great lesson at a time where I was tempted to overstretch in other areas of my life.  It’s a reminder to remember where the energy is, what I find fun and stay in that space until I am ready to move on. Whatever we do as a hobby it should help us to grow and give us energy to cope with the less fun stuff that life chucks at us.

So I am bringing myself back to writing regularly, instead of learning to set up a website.  But do me a favour: head over to thinkingquietly.org.uk– I will move this to its real home soon.

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Setting up a website was nothing like this – it just felt like it (Photo by Markus Spiske freeforcommercialuse.net on Pexels.com)

 

 

Raising morale

It’s a simple statement: “morale is low” sounds like a factual observation about the feelings of a group of people.  But what makes morale high or low?

I have been reading a lot recently about what makes individuals happy, but I am far from clear on how to make groups of people happy.  Well, far from clear on what science says about it.  .

Morale is different from efficiency or efficacy, in my experience groups can be very effective in their work, yet still have a low morale.  Eventually, the two do start to align though and it feels it should be true that motivated, happy groups of workers are more effective.

In a particular volunteering role I am feeling responsible for changing morale which is apparently low and that is being presented to me as a huge problem, so it is feeling very daunting at the moment.  I can see some clear and simple solutions: pointing out the good results of the work, which is clearly successful; thanking people for their efforts, their time and their skills, which are many and abundant; checking that people are doing what fits their skills and also what they want to be doing, offering training and support where needed.

This all seems so simple though, that it cannot be the answer.  It makes me think that there is a huge moral responsibility of any head of any team to make sure her team feel good as well as do good.  That said, I know I cannot make someone feel a particular way, so it is feeling like a conundrum.

If anyone has any good books, blogs or podcasts about morale rather than effectiveness, point me in the right direction please!

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This picture makes me feel happy anyway! Photo by b. on Pexels.com