I really didn’t think I really suffered from much FOMO until this evening.
I get it mildly when everyone is at a party except me. But I now realise that it is much easier to accept that I have chosen to do whatever else it is I am doing and to be really present in my evening out, rather than thinking on the one I am not part of.
I have yet to work out why people take such huge pleasure in telling me I missed a great night though. I may be too nostalgic and looking back with rose coloured glasses here, but I am sure that we used to reassure each other that “you didn’t miss much” or “oh it was the usual people saying the usual things” or “never mind, we’re all meeting up again next month, let’s make sure that date is right for you”.
Not so much any more. I think it shows that we are beginning to condition each other to make the fear of missing out bigger and more anxiety-inducing.
Nevertheless, I do a ton of very cool stuff, trying to do everything makes me ill and I prefer to be healthy and just do one thing thanks, so the FOMO has definitely dissipated as I have got older.
Except for when the sun shines. Then it becomes close to anxiety-inducing as I feel the need to spend as long outside as I possibly can. The current warm spell is exhausting me simply because I feel the need to be outside when I really want to be asleep in my bed. This evening I am away with work on the coast, so despite feeling travel weary and possibly a bit dehydrated, I had to walk along the seafront. And walk. Until I felt so tired and hungry I was getting a bit tearful. It still took a stern internal talking-to to make me go and find food and rest. I have even interrupted writing this to pop back outside to see the sun set. I couldn’t, wrong angle, but I did see the moon instead. But seriously! The sun will shine again, it will be warm again, why do I feel this desperate need to be outside for every possible moment? I am inventing a new ailment of fear of missing out on the daylight. It may hit those who live in the more northern areas of the country hardest.